Starting a conversation with someone you don’t know isn’t easy or comfortable for anyone. You run the risk of being rejected, embarrassing yourself, or creating an awkward moment. No one likes to willingly put themselves in vulnerable situations but sometimes there is just no way around it. Knowing how to start a good conversation with strangers is a skill that you can’t avoid learning because you are bound to be put in a situation with people you don’t know at least once in your life (and probably a lot more than that). Starting and holding conversations with people is one of my biggest challenges so I really enjoyed researching for this week’s post. I hope this helps you improve your conversations as much as it has helped me:
*Just be friendly. You don’t need to impress the other person within the first thirty seconds of meeting them. Be relaxed, informal, and open.
*Smile and hold eye contact (click back to my post from a few weeks ago).
*Breathe normal and have open posture. Don’t close your body off from the other person, sit/stand facing whoever you are talking to.
*Make sure to introduce yourself/explain why you are at the event.
*Ask open ended questions that require more than a one word answer.
*Talk about topics that interest you, you will have better and more natural conversation this way. Don’t try to talk about things just because you think that is what you’re supposed to be talking about.
*Not sure what to talk about? Have a few conversation starters ready. Ask them about their job, compliment something they are wearing and ask where they got it from, or ask them why they are at the event/who they know there.
Just like everything else, the more you do it the better you will get at it. Don’t be afraid to practice, talk to as many people as you can. And most importantly, don’t be afraid to fail.
Now, go practice your ‘lipstick confidence’!